Monday, March 22, 2010
HELP!!
I'm in a rut. It is driving me crazy. I know I have a newborn, but come on, I can't use that excuse forever. (Is she even considered a newborn still???) She's already 3 months old... TODAY! Where did January and February go? Not to mention most of March, too. {sigh} Well anyway, my rut is I'm not productive. Sure I'm taking care of children- feeding them, cleaning them, etc.., but I feel like my house is in disorder and confusion 90% of the time (the other 10% is when the kids are in bed and I'm still awake for a minute or two). I do the bare necessities to get by each day and think I'll get on top of it all tomorrow. Well as we all know, that way of thinking only leads to trouble. I've attempted assigning each day with it's tasks to spread it out so it's not so overwhelming, but I find that I talk myself into doing it TOMORROW and then the cycle starts all over again. So what's a girl to do? The biggest problem is Nate ends up having to help me get control of the chaos after he's worked all week and that's the last thing I want him to be doing..... picking up my slack. He is so great and is so willing to help. He does it happily and doesn't make me feel like a big fat loser, even when I am. But really, he shouldn't have to be scrubbing floors and folding laundry.... dishes? Yes. He HAS to help do dishes. Sorry, that's just not going to change. :) So if any of you have any tricks to keeping motivated and maybe even making cleaning "fun", I'm all ears!
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One thing that has really helped me (at least in the dishes department) is that my 8-year-old is assigned to empty the dishwasher every morning before school. Then it's easier to put dirty dishes in throughout the day - especially dinner gets cleaned up easier if we don't have to worry about emptying and then filling the dishwasher. I also have a "routine" for chores. Mondays = grocery shopping. Wednesdays = wash sheets and towels, Thursdays = wash clothing, Fridays = cleaning bathrooms, kitchen, dusting, windows etc., and Saturday right before bed is vacuuming and mopping (so it doesn't get messed up before Sunday!). Good Luck - I know we've all been in that same rut before. Maybe warmer weather will help get you out of your funk :)
Cut your self some slack lady! Give your self some time. Three months sounds like a long time, but really.....when you have so many things going on (especially baby #5!) three months is not that long. You will get there. But life changes, and schedules change, and responsibilities change. What worked for you last year even, might not be what works now. And it is ok to ask for help, especially from your husband. Maybe you will have more energy if you fatten up a little:) It hasn't worked for me yet, but you never know until you try:)
I feel your rut. My 5th baby is almost 2 and I'm still in it. I've found it helps to delegate chores to the kids. Like Emily, my kids empty the dishwasher in the morning before school. The 3 oldest each clean a bathroom once a week. My boys each vacuum 2 rooms, dust and empty garbages once a week. Caitlin matches the clean socks and puts laundry away. I've had to learn to be okay with a less-than-perfect cleaning job. Because if I try to do it myself, I get overwhelmed and depressed, which causes the rut. Exercising also helps me to feel better, like I'm doing something for myself. Good luck! I feel for you. Just know that you're not alone. It's hard, but I think it's mostly a mind-over-matter problem. Call me if you every just want to talk!
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