On Monday nights I set aside time to lay by Rachel at bedtime. It's our only real one-on-one time that we actually have scheduled. Is that sad that I have to "schedule" one-on-one time with my own children?? I myself would say yes, but with Nate traveling I find it hard to even find time to breathe sometimes. Rachel hates going to bed... she always has. So the Monday night time with me is something that helps her go to bed and stay there (hopefully with minimal whining, as well!). She looks forward to it and so do I. She tells me about school and her friends. Often times with more detail than when I just ask about school right when she gets home. Well, tonight I asked her who her best friend was in her class (since none of her really good friends from last year are in her class this year) and she said, "Mia". So I asked if she plays with her at recess and she said, "I try, but she won't let me because I'm not in her club." So my heart breaks just a little because my daughter isn't in "the club". I tried not to make a big deal out of it, but had to ask her if that makes her feel bad. She says, "No, I just play with Courtnee and Angeli." (Those are her friends from last year.) I am so glad she hasn't felt rejected... yet. I hope she'll always be able to let things roll off her shoulder and move on with cheer AND I hope she'll always feel she can talk to me. (High hope? Maybe.) So then I started drawing (scratching/tickling) on her back and she said, "Ah darn! Now I can't stare at you." I asked her why she'd want to just stare at me. She said, "Because I love you!" And that was it. My heart melted. My day was all worth while after all!!
Monday, September 8, 2008
Moments like this...
On Monday nights I set aside time to lay by Rachel at bedtime. It's our only real one-on-one time that we actually have scheduled. Is that sad that I have to "schedule" one-on-one time with my own children?? I myself would say yes, but with Nate traveling I find it hard to even find time to breathe sometimes. Rachel hates going to bed... she always has. So the Monday night time with me is something that helps her go to bed and stay there (hopefully with minimal whining, as well!). She looks forward to it and so do I. She tells me about school and her friends. Often times with more detail than when I just ask about school right when she gets home. Well, tonight I asked her who her best friend was in her class (since none of her really good friends from last year are in her class this year) and she said, "Mia". So I asked if she plays with her at recess and she said, "I try, but she won't let me because I'm not in her club." So my heart breaks just a little because my daughter isn't in "the club". I tried not to make a big deal out of it, but had to ask her if that makes her feel bad. She says, "No, I just play with Courtnee and Angeli." (Those are her friends from last year.) I am so glad she hasn't felt rejected... yet. I hope she'll always be able to let things roll off her shoulder and move on with cheer AND I hope she'll always feel she can talk to me. (High hope? Maybe.) So then I started drawing (scratching/tickling) on her back and she said, "Ah darn! Now I can't stare at you." I asked her why she'd want to just stare at me. She said, "Because I love you!" And that was it. My heart melted. My day was all worth while after all!!
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Jilleen, that was the cutest post ever!! You seem like such a good mom.
How sweet. I think it is wonderful that you schedule time. I am sure she will always remember that when she is older. Good for her not to be upset about not being in the club. She is such a sweet girl.
Okay that was the cutest little story. I don't want my boys to have to deal with friend troubles either-so heart breaking. She will be the one to come out on top though-after all she is part Crane! Your blog is super cute, lovethe new colors. Where did you get them this time?
She is such a sweetheart. I hate the "club" thing. They should have a meeting with all the kids about that. It is happening at every school and it seems like 1st grade is where it starts. I am so glad Rach doesn't let it bother her though. Her Aunt Shelly will come play with her at recess if I need to. Love you Rachel!
That is so sweet! I've got to find a way to connect better with Elisabeth. It's been difficult lately.
oh, that is the sweetest little story! i love it! it made me so happy! :) and you look great, by the way...really, really great! :)
You are doing a great job! Made me cry
Love, Marci
Hi Jilleen...I stumbled across your blog from Stephanies...I love this post and I promise she will remember. My mom used to tickle my back for me regularly at bedtime (even through the teenage years) and it really kept us close. I treasure those moments...especially now that she is gone. Keep it up!
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